Cycle of violence

The cycle of violence

The cycle of violence: How does violence escalate in families?

Many women describe that the relationship began peacefully, and that the violence came slowly, almost imperceptibly. This is typical because violence in close relationships often follows a pattern known as the cycle of violence: a recurring cycle of tension, outbursts, and reconciliation, which over time becomes more intense.

Tension phase

The atmosphere in the relationship becomes heavier. He becomes more controlling and more dissatisfied. Small conflicts or threats may arise. The woman tries to avoid conflict, smooth things over, and not provoke him. It can feel like walking on eggshells.

The violent outburst

The tension reaches its peak. Violence breaks out, psychologically, physically, or both.

The remorse phase

After the outburst, he regrets it. He apologises, becomes extra affectionate, and promises it will never happen again. This creates hope that things can change.

Tension builds again

The calm does not last. The tension returns, and the cycle starts over. With each round, the violence typically becomes more intense and the intervals shorter.

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Cycle of violence

The cycle of violence

The cycle of violence: How does violence escalate in families?

Tension phase

The violent outburst

The remorse phase

Tension builds again

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The cycle of violence

The cycle of violence: How does violence escalate in families?

Tension phase

The violent outburst

The remorse phase

Tension builds again

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